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Things I Will Miss When I Die

On Wednesday, I told you that Nora Ephron wrote two lists at the end of a collection of her work – a list of things she’ll miss and a list of things she won’t. I decided to start lists of my own and shared with you the list of Things I Won’t Miss When I Die yesterday.

Now I don’t believe I’ll actually miss anything when I die because I’ll be in heaven and it’ll be awesome. But for the sake of the the list, let’s say I was conscious of things I don’t have anymore that I wish I still had. These would be some of those things.

An unexpected gift

John 🙂

Big happy dogs

Dark chocolate

The sound of the breeze rustling leaves in the trees

Chickadees

The sound of laughter

Dark chocolate almond cherry clusters from Costco

Reading in a comfy chair near a patch of sunlight

Picnics with John

The scent of cinnamon baking

Perfectly made chocolate chip cookies

Australian wines

Fish and chips or calamari and chips, cooked just right

That moment of joy when you see a friend for the first time in a while

Petting the soft fur of kittens and puppies

The Indiana Jones ride at Disneyland

Riding behind John on his motorcycle

The view and sound of the ocean

Running the City2Surf race

Eating a big steak and potatoes meal after a race

Music that makes me dance

The smell of fireplaces burning in the fall

Waking up happy and smiling

Big strong hugs from people who love me

Peanut butter filled chocolate cupcakes

Running fast and strong early in the morning

Daydreaming

Unexpected gifts

Blooming roses with a strong scent

Peanut butter and chocolate

Things I Won’t Miss When I Die

Based on yesterday’s post about the lists Nora Ephron wrote, here is my list of some of the Things I Won’t Miss When I Die. 🙂

Asking for no onions every single time I go to a restaurant

Birds waking me up at 4am

The sound of the bathroom exhaust fan

Hotel room key cards that don’t work by the second day

More emails than I can read or answer

Arguing

Cleaning

Being too hot

Being too cold

Spiders

Every single creepy bug, snake, pest, etc. that freaks me out

Spiderwebs across the sidewalk when I’m running or walking (Yes, this really bothered me this morning!)

Clutter

People who toss their cigarettes on the ground

Road Rage

Insomnia

Never-ending noise of city life

Time constraints

Peas and carrots

Cigarette smoke

The sound of fluorescent lights

I Miss Erma and I’ll Miss Nora, Too

It’s been almost a month since Nora Ephron died, but I still think about her. I loved some of the movies she made – Sleepless in Seattle is arguably my all-time favorite movie – but I didn’t realize she was an essayist and humorist, too. I have to go find and read some more of her work.

Meryl Streep said of Nora that she always looked at situations and asked herself how she could make it more fun. I think that’s a wonderful way to write – and to live. That’s what I want to do with my stories.

When reading that article about Nora, I saw things that I want to emulate in my life, like writing about everyday things with humor. (How do you write about cabbage with humor, Nora? I’ll have to read that one.) I write stuff like that in everyday emails to my friends and in Facebook posts. I should really do more on-purpose humor writing to make people laugh or feel connected. It’s something I’ve always loved, thanks to Erma Bombeck. Erma is another writer whose words and wisdom have stayed with me ever since I read her as a kid. (I read her newspaper columns over my mom’s shoulder.)  Because of Erma, I burn up my pretty candles rather than letting them melt in the safety of the storage unit. 🙂

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At the end of the article about Nora’s life and death, the writer says Nora concluded a collection of her writing, “I Remember Nothing,” with two lists – one of things she wouldn’t miss when she died, and one of things she would. I love that idea so much that I’m going to start those lists right now. I’ll post them over the next two days.

What about you? Have you made lists like this? I think it’s the sort of thing that helps you remember what’s important to you while you’re alive. It’s a way to get closer to living with no regrets. And that’s something that really appeals to me. 🙂